This week, we’re doing a deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present—the ebook The 12 Week 12 months. So in case you are within the temper to speak about purpose setting, then this episode is for you!
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Present Notes
Why a 12-week purpose is best:
-Lengthy deadlines can really feel very daunting and result in procrastination.
-You’ll be able to break up your objectives into seasons so that you do extra work on them when you will have extra time and fewer if you end up busier.
The vital components of the 12-week yr:
-Making your imaginative and prescient (make sure that it’s clear and measurable).
-Develop your plan (break up your purpose right into a collection of small objectives).
-Accountability and protecting rating
-Checking in
Elsie’s high 5 strengths:
-Catalyst
-Optimist
-Philomath
-Thinker
-Timekeeper
Emma’s high 5 strengths:
-Philomath
-Timekeeper
-Focus Professional
-Deliverer
-Thinker
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Episode 173 Transcript:
Emma: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re doing one other deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present. It’s the ebook, the 12 Week 12 months. So in case you’re within the temper to speak about purpose setting, this episode is for you. And we’re additionally gonna speak slightly bit in regards to the Excessive 5 take a look at, which we’re gonna speak about our outcomes, Elsie’s outcomes, my outcomes, and how one can take the take a look at in case you’re .
Elsie: I’ll clarify the general idea of the 12 Week 12 months. So the 12 week yr is a purpose setting methodology that goes by quarter. So 12 weeks is one quarter, proper?
Emma: Yeah, it’s three months.
Elsie: Yeah. So 12 weeks is each three months. The factor I like about that is if you set your objectives only for the brand new yr, the start of every yr. Initially, it may be like a procrastination factor the place you don’t have an excellent strong January, that form of occurs to me yearly. You’re like, I didn’t actually obtain my purpose in January, so I assume I’m simply not going to have an ideal yr this yr.
Emma: So I assume I’ll simply wait, surrender for subsequent January.
Elsie: Proper. So if you do it each three months, you simply have 4 occasions the contemporary begins, 4 occasions extra contemporary begins than you do yearly, which I like. And the opposite factor is that almost all objectives that you just wish to obtain in a yr, you truly may obtain or make main headway in simply three months. You don’t actually need a yr for many objectives, and even in case you do want a yr, you’ll be able to no less than do one a part of your purpose then do the subsequent half. Part them off in your subsequent quarter? I feel that the twelfth week yr was actually, actually useful for me, it’s only a mindset shift. And I like New 12 months’s objectives personally. I’m not a type of individuals who’s like, I’m not a decision individual. I’m undoubtedly a decision individual. I’ll at all times take an opportunity to set a purpose. . However I feel that that is simply extra sensible and it really works higher. And the opposite factor that they do quite a bit within the 12 week yr is behavior monitoring. So there’s a variety of journaling and a variety of like monitoring of your progress. And that’s one thing that works actually good for my character as a result of I form of slightly little bit of a perfectionist factor the place if I don’t do one thing daily, then I really feel like that I’ve already failed. And having the ability to see that doing one thing three to 5 occasions per week is in some methods higher as a result of it’s like attainable as an alternative of unimaginable, and it’s simply pretty much as good as doing one thing daily. I feel that having requirements which you could by no means obtain might be one of many largest enemies of success that many people have. Yeah, I discovered the ebook. In case you haven’t learn it, I might undoubtedly suggest it, however you’ll be able to in all probability additionally simply hearken to this episode and take like the principle excessive factors from it as a result of it’s fairly easy.
Emma: Yeah, it’s fairly easy. And it’s not a protracted ebook too. So the 12 week yr has like an internet site the place you may as well join a e-newsletter and I’ve signed up for it years and years in the past. It’s form of a type of newsletters the place they’ll ship like suggestions and tips right here and there or form of like check-ins, issues like that. So anyway, I prefer it. If I don’t have time, I don’t learn ’em. But when I’ve time and I do learn them, I often discover them like useful. So anyway, you probably have any curiosity in that, simply so you already know that’s obtainable, it’s free. Okay. So I used to be simply gonna go forward and go over a number of issues which can be form of just like the case for a brief deadline , as a result of that’s just about it. Is the 12 week years like, Hey, let’s have shorter deadlines as an alternative of this yr lengthy deadline. Sure, and I feel so many of those you form of already hit on together with your synopsis of the 12 week yr, and I feel that’s form of attention-grabbing. So I’ll undergo these form of shortly, however be at liberty to elaborate if you wish to, however yeah. Okay, so lengthy deadlines can actually simply result in a variety of procrastination. If you already know you will have an entire yr to do one thing and perhaps you don’t actually need a yr to do it, then you definately’ll find yourself procrastinating. So you find yourself being like, oh, I’ll get to it, after which come October you’re like, oh crap, I higher actually work on this purpose as a result of I’m throughout the yr and you might have simply performed it shortly after which moved on to your subsequent factor. Additionally, I feel lengthy deadlines can typically imply that our priorities or our life actually modifications, and I don’t learn about you, however that’s the place I get actually hung up, is that if I’ve made a purpose after which my life actually does change and it makes extra sense for me to vary that purpose. Generally I get it in my head that I’m giving up or I failed, or I’m making an excuse to not end my purpose when the reality is that this purpose simply doesn’t serve me anymore as a result of I made it six months in the past and my life was totally different six months in the past.
Elsie: I’ve this drawback actually dangerous, having the ability to settle for placing a pause button on objectives has been very precious for me. Earlier than that, I actually had the mindset that if I wasn’t doing every little thing proper now, like if somebody says, how’s your pottery going? Proper now, I haven’t made pottery for greater than a month, I might really feel like panicked in like a failure. However now, that I’ve my pause button in place and I do know that like we’re exhibiting our home completely always and that’s why I can’t get my pottery stuff out as a lot as I wished to, I used to be leaving it out for months at a time. It’s simply not my productive season for that proper now and it is going to be once more sooner or later. There’s a variety of good thoughts stuff, extra mindset stuff on this ebook, particularly for individuals who could be like very exhausting on your self or like an all or nothing character.
Emma: Yeah, I feel that it’s a variety of mindset modifications and actually optimistic ones typically. As a result of, yeah, there’s simply a variety of guilt that may come into purpose setting and I actually assume that’s not useful, so discovering methods to do away with that’s actually good. Okay, so one other factor, lengthy deadlines may also really feel actually daunting. So in case you actually do make a purpose that’s gonna take you a yr to perform it, it’s in all probability a extremely large purpose. Until you break it down into small objectives, you’re in all probability gonna really feel overwhelmed, and that may even result in you giving up. So alongside these traces, I feel lengthy deadlines, once they’re performed efficiently, they actually simply are a collection of quick deadlines. In case you’re your purpose is, like Elsie loves pottery, I’m attempting to write down a ebook. So if I’m like, my purpose is to write down a ebook, it’s like, okay, nicely the first step is like define, step two, chapter one, you already know, nevertheless many chapters, it’s a collection of small objectives alongside the best way. And so I feel the 12 week yr in some methods is simply an acknowledgement that in an effort to accomplish one thing large in a yr or 5 years or no matter, you’re on the deadline. You’re simply gonna have a bunch of small objectives alongside the best way, and so that you would possibly as nicely simply consider it as, okay, nicely what’s my 12 week plan right here as a result of I received three months to do X, Y, Z. So this sort of ties into all of it, however I like quarterly objectives partially as a result of I feel, and I particularly assume this for our work, there’s simply totally different components of the yr. Perhaps it’s as a result of I dwell someplace with the 4 Seasons, perhaps it’s as a result of I’ve a child, and so like college and daycare could be totally different at totally different occasions and there’s holidays. I don’t know. However for me, I really feel like I can actually go loopy for work in Q1 and Q2 after which Q3 and this fall there’s, there may be a variety of work, however there’s much more like household time and holidays and issues like that. And I like having the ability to form of consider issues in that means. So then I don’t really feel dangerous in let’s say this fall, I’m not working fairly as a lot cuz I’ve a variety of vacation stuff going if I form of knew that and I actually busted my in Q1 and q2, now I’m like, oh, I’m on observe. You realize, my objectives in This fall usually are not as profession, they’re extra household cleansing the home, preparing for visitors, no matter, they’re extra in that vary. And I can have that 12 weeks be one thing that is smart for my yr versus this yr lengthy purpose that has to embody all these totally different seasons, and it virtually doesn’t make sence.
Elsie: I feel that in This fall for our enterprise, we form of do have to enter survival mode yearly as a result of it’s often after we do virtually all of our adverts, so that you don’t get to choose your content material as a lot as you do that time of yr. Yeah, I fully agree, which is like adverts and household stuff.
Emma: Yeah. You’re like, what’s do and what’s occurring with my household? That’s all I’ve time for. You realize, it’s enjoyable, but it surely’s a sure season and I feel in case you’re anticipating to do a variety of deep work for the long run, you’re simply not gonna get to do it that quarter, I by no means do. So anyway, that’s what Q1’s for. So these are form of my case for the quick deadline, so hopefully we’ve swayed you. I really feel like we in all probability did.
Elsie: I feel everyone seems to be swayed, I undoubtedly am, I might by no means return. I feel that it’s very compelling. There’s actually nothing that’s higher about lengthy deadlines. No, there’s actually nothing.
Emma: No. Yeah, it’s an excellent methodology. I agree.
Elsie: Case’s closed.
Emma: Case’s closed, so all people’s on board, good. Okay, so then I simply wished to speak about, to me the vital components of the 12 week yr, some issues he hits on within the ebook and issues that may assist you to achieve success as you’re making your objectives for the subsequent 12 weeks. Okay, so the primary one is making your imaginative and prescient. How do you determine what to work on? How do you determine what objectives you need? Okay, so I feel some issues that assistance is now that you already know that you’ve got 12 weeks you could be a little extra practical about what you may get performed in 12 weeks. So that you’re not essentially going to be making a purpose that’s like, I’m going to learn 80 books and go to the fitness center 100 occasions or no matter.You simply know that that’s not gonna occur in 12 weeks. So now you’ll be able to focus slightly extra on what’s practical to occur in these 12 weeks. And I might additionally say as you’re making your imaginative and prescient, your objectives, I love to do them in a bunch of various areas. So I wish to form of have totally different buckets of like, right here’s my private life, which incorporates like hobbies and self care. And typically additionally like well being and wellness stuff, like going to the fitness center or no matter. Then I consider household, which is usually stuff with my son, but it surely’s different issues too. And I form of put mates in there too, so if a pal’s having a birthday or if a pal’s going by means of a tough time, I wanna make time to be there for them or do one thing, and I take into consideration profession. So what am I attempting to perform these subsequent 12 weeks at work. Is there one thing that we’re constructing? Is there some form of large deadline? Is there one thing that I’ve been wanting to start out and end? Or no less than begin, you already know, once more, you solely have 12 weeks. So what are we getting performed in these 12 weeks, that form of. So I wish to have totally different buckets that’s how I give it some thought. However one thing that I feel is admittedly vital if you’re making objectives is to guarantee that it’s clear and measurable. I feel in case you’re like, okay, on the finish of those 12 weeks, let’s say you’re engaged on some psychological well being stuff, you’ve had a tough time and also you’re attempting to work on that. Not that that’s essentially me, precisely and I’m simply utilizing myself right here’s an instance, let’s simply say. So in case you make the purpose, I simply wanna really feel higher in 12 weeks. It’s like, nicely, Good purpose not precisely very clear. Not precisely very measurable but. What do you actually imply by that? And if it’s like, nicely, I wanna really feel higher, I wanna have much less days the place I’m feeling actually down. I wish to really feel extra hopeful. So attempt to outline it slightly bit extra, after which take into consideration what are some issues that you might measure in that as a result of measuring a sense is admittedly exhausting, that may be very troublesome. However as an alternative take into consideration like, I wish to make sure that I am going to remedy each month. Okay, so then you definately’re gonna go to remedy thrice within the subsequent 12 weeks, okay? That’s measurable. Nice, you might try this. I wish to spend extra time with mates. I wish to get some sunshine. I wish to work on endorphin stuff. So perhaps that’s, I’m gonna do some cardio, I’m gonna go to the fitness center. I’m gonna begin working no matter factor that you just assume is gonna assist. That is your objectives, however make them measurable issues which you could truly know in case you achieved it or not, in case you did it or not. As a result of if you get to the tip of the 12 weeks, you’re gonna take inventory. You’re gonna say, oh, did I make it? Did I get all of the issues performed? And it’s not that you just’re attempting to make this large to-do record and simply undergo the motions. But when issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it is likely to be actually exhausting to know in case your like, in case you get to the tip of the 12 weeks and also you’re like, I don’t really feel higher, then you definately’re gonna wanna know why. So is it that you just did all of the issues and people didn’t assist and now you’ve gotta attempt one thing else? Or is it that you just didn’t do the issues, you bought sidetracked, you bought distracted, perhaps one thing occurred the place you couldn’t, one thing main modified in your life, that occurs. But when it issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it’s gonna be actually exhausting to know why it labored or didn’t work. Okay, in order that’s form of about making your imaginative and prescient. Then the subsequent is when you form of have your imaginative and prescient, develop your plan. So break up your purpose right into a collection of small objectives, so issues for every month and even every week. And I feel if you’re interested by 12 weeks, that is a lot simpler than if you’re interested by an entire yr as a result of typically I’ll make a large record that’s for the entire yr. Elsie and I do that quite a bit for weblog posts, we’re like, right here’s a thousand weblog posts I wanna write as a result of we simply get enthusiastic about concepts. So we at all times have means too many concepts and I like to make an enormous record like that. I feel it’s actually enjoyable, it makes me really feel excited. It makes me really feel like the long run’s stuffed with prospects. So I feel that’s an excellent train for these causes. However it comes to truly executing, so this week for instance, I’m sick. So I had sooner or later the place I used to be principally off cuz I used to be simply actually sick and couldn’t actually work. So then it’s like, okay, I’m gonna have a look at my record and I now have these 1000’s of concepts and solely 4 days to work, what may I get performed? Whereas as an alternative, in case you had these 5 issues to do that week, is there one which you’ll want to take off the record since you had been sick. Then you definitely simply get to maintain transferring ahead and it simply makes it quite a bit sooner and simpler to observe if you already know the place you’re going after which you can also make faster changes versus this big, big grasp plan and also you get a barely astray and now you’re tremendous astray.
Elsie: Yeah, I agree. I feel this can be a little little bit of an excellent time to say my post-it methodology. Oh by the best way, Podcast listeners attempt to diagnose me with h ADHD form of quite a bit. I’m like, I do know that I in all probability have ADHD so lI get it. In all probability lots of people have undiagnosed ADHD. So you probably have any bother with focusing, I feel the large record, like my weblog put up record for the yr of what I wanna do, it’s stapled collectively, it’s three pages of typed textual content it like it’s not one thing that I would like to have a look at each week. So for me to have a look at a small record of about 5 issues, like sufficiently small to suit on a post-it is what my mind can deal with after which I can select one thing to truly work on. So I feel that in case you’re an individual who will get simply overwhelmed by a protracted record, simply don’t have a look at the lengthy record that usually. Each few weeks you’ll be able to go in and choose some issues from it and maintain your self on a small record. I feel it’s only a trick you are able to do on your self that basically works.
Emma: Sure, I agree and I feel too, it simply makes it the place all people’s busy. All of us have limitations in our life, irrespective of for what purpose. And I feel that for instance, after I’m writing a ebook, as soon as I’ve the define, I instantly really feel means much less overwhelmed as a result of if I’ve two and a half to a few hours the place I can work on this at the moment, that’s all I’ve. I’m not gonna get to work on it extra perhaps this entire week,however then I have a look at my define and I’m like, oh, chapter 4 I really feel like I actually have a deal with on that. I’m gonna write that proper now, and I do it after which it’s performed. And it’s like that’s one thing that now simply moved my entire venture ahead in a significant means. Did I end the entire ebook? No, however did I write a chapter? Sure I did within the time that I’ve. And so, and that’s, , you already know, form of it’s like attempting to interrupt down these large issues that we wanna do in life into smaller chew measurement issues in order that we will truly get them performed. As a result of life is stuffed with numerous different issues which can be by no means gonna be on our record, however we nonetheless should do them, and that’s simply what life’s like and it’s okay. Okay, so develop your plan and that can assist, break down your purpose into very small objectives. They are often weekly, month-to-month, they’ll even be every day. I might say too, don’t really feel like they should be so inflexible as a result of I feel in case you do have a really, like each single day this should occur. That doesn’t depart you a lot area for getting sick, or in case your child will get sick or you will have a snow day or the web goes out at your own home and you’ll’t work on the factor you had been gonna work on. It’s important to depart some margin to let life occur, otherwise you’re actually gonna stress your self out, so try this too.
Elsie: Yeah, concentrate on the large wins for positive. So long as I can get this a part of my record performed, then the remainder of it’s elective. I feel is an effective means to consider it.
Emma: Okay, after which the subsequent factor I wanna speak about I feel varies a lot from individual to individual. So it’s accountability and protecting rating. So that is one thing he talks about within the ebook and there’s numerous other ways to do it. And I additionally assume it actually is dependent upon you and what works for you. So the entire level is to have mechanisms in place to assist maintain your self on observe. Some individuals are very internally motivated or externally motivated, or perhaps they name it intrinsically motivated, I’m undecided. However I’m an individual the place I don’t actually need a variety of outdoors accountability. I’m very very like on the within, if I’ve determined I wanna do one thing that’s it for me, that’s sufficient. I do want methods to maintain myself on observe. For instance, my husband, he has a pal who he at all times goes to the fitness center with. It’s not that he by no means goes to the fitness center by himself, he does, but it surely helps him quite a bit to have this pal who he goes with. It’s simply form of an accountability factor. It simply implies that he is aware of his mates there. In that case, if he’s not there then he’s form of letting him down or that’s in all probability too harsh of a wording, however you already know, one thing alongside these traces. Whereas me, I used to be attempting to get again into the fitness center this yr for my psychological well being causes, and so I used to be contemplating becoming a member of this new fitness center the place all my mates go. I went as soon as and it was actually enjoyable to see everybody. It form of dawned on me thatI’m simply not very externally motivated. I’m a really inner, intrinsically motivated individual, so I truly don’t actually need somebody there. I simply must have it in my thoughts that that is vital to me and I must have purchased into the explanation why, and for me that’s ok. And as soon as I’ve that, then I simply should form of have my mechanisms to maintain myself on observe. For me, I’m slightly bit extra of a reward system individual. I feel you’re like this too, Elsie. I wish to have slightly reward on the finish of an enormous purpose, like as soon as I obtain it then I’m like, oh, I’m shopping for myself this in all probability new jumpsuit or no matter it’s. I’m doing one thing, I’m taking myself out to get my nails performed, no matter. I’m slightly extra of a rewards individual and I wish to set these for myself. However yeah, you is likely to be an individual who you actually wish to work with others, perhaps you want engaged on groups. Perhaps you want an accountability associate for sure objectives. These are nice instruments and if that’s one thing that helps you, it’s best to do it. However they’re not essentially for me and I don’t actually assume they’re for you both,Elise. That’s why we thrive a lot at working alone and being alone quite a bit, however I do like reward methods.
Elsie: I like rewards too and for me I feel you’re a pure finisher and I’m not. So for me, I like to seek out one thing to assist me get previous the half the place I failed earlier than, which is often, relying on what kind of venture, it’s often the center or round like day 10 when issues get boring. The purpose the place issues get boring, the entire novelty is worn off is often exhausting for me to get previous. I’m very into beginning one thing. In my life I’ve in all probability began a whole bunch of issues that I did for sooner or later, which is admittedly humorous. So, beginning is like my happiest level after which the remainder of it I’ve to maintain myself someway externally motivated. A rewards system is admittedly good for me. I feel that I don’t wanna depend on different individuals as a result of that’s simply not practical for my way of life. So I feel I just like the little rewards. Additionally, the opposite factor I actually like is charts the place you shade in one thing for both every day or every milestone, nevertheless the chart goes. However I actually just like the coloring in charts are very useful for me as a result of when you get to a sure level, it’s like slightly bit addictive to maintain going and identical to get to that fully full level. However yeah, I feel that the factor I favored from the 12 yr was the half about score your self. I feel it’s slightly bizarre, however I’ve performed it earlier than and I really feel like I’m often slightly bit harsh. However it doesn’t actually matter in case you’re harsh or beneficiant, so long as you’re constant, form of doesn’t matter. It’s only a option to maintain your self attempting to do higher. And I do assume that having your personal accountability is so a lot better than attempting to get another person to carry you accountable. I’ve by no means discovered one other individual holding me accountable to be as efficient and constant as one thing I may do myself.
Emma: I additionally assume like I simply have an actual, I don’t know a great way to say this, however I don’t actually care what different individuals assume that a lot, if I care what you assume, then I do and if I don’t, I don’t. That’s simply what I’ve at all times been like. And I feel at occasions in my life that served me very well and at different occasions in my life, it’s made it the place I’ve been form of remoted. However it’s simply what I’m like. It doesn’t encourage for me as a result of if I’ve determined that’s now not my purpose and my accountability associate or no matter was like we’re nonetheless doing this. I’d be like, no, I’m not and I’m identical to not motivated by outdoors forces. However on the score factor, I feel it’s slightly bizarre too, however one factor I like about it’s I do assume it permits extra. I desire a category that’s like, you may get an A or you may get an F and every little thing in between. I feel go fail is form of nerve-wracking slightly bit. So I like that in, no less than in my world, and score myself, I may give myself like a strong B minus and be like, Hey, it’s not so dangerous, however you might do higher, I like that. So then it feels such as you’re not a failure. You didn’t fail, however you might perform a little higher. You didn’t get an A and I, I like that as a result of then it’s like, all proper, I’m gonna maintain attempting, I’m not gonna surrender on this. However I see that there’s some areas the place I can enhance considerably. So I like issues which have a variety of scale or a variety of grey. I don’t do as nicely in like black and white conditions, I assume. After which actually the very last thing that I wished to speak about with 12 week yr was a check-in, the check-in time, which is week 13, so on the finish of your 12 weeks, it’s time to verify in. So a pair issues to consider with that. Clearly, It’s good to simply take time on the finish of this timeframe or any form of purpose setting factor to see how you probably did to price your self to simply verify in as a result of I feel a variety of occasions, no less than for me, perhaps this comes pure for others, however for me, I’m a really ahead transferring individual. I really feel like I can end one thing and I don’t even actually speak about it, and it doesn’t even actually register and I’ll simply maintain transferring to the subsequent purpose. After which I’ll see a pal who I haven’t seen in a pair months and they are often like, Hey, did you end writing that novel you had been engaged on? And I’m like, oh yeah, I did. Yeah, that was enjoyable, I’m engaged on this now. That’s what I’m like typically and I feel it’s cool that you’ve got a variety of objectives in life, however you didn’t actually take any time to, one, rejoice you probably have success, so try this, don’t make that mistake. Have fun when you will have successes, as a result of that’s what life ought to be stuffed with is getting higher and higher at purpose setting, at no matter it’s that you just’re desirous to do together with your time. So apart from celebrating your successes, I additionally assume checking in is an effective time, particularly in case you’re new to the 12 week yr to simply form of seeing the way it went. As a result of right here’s the factor, you would possibly get to the tip of 12 weeks and understand, wow, I made means too large of objectives, so I epically failed didn’t get them performed, and never as a result of I didn’t attempt actually exhausting however as a result of they had been too large, they had been an excessive amount of for 12 weeks, and that’s okay, you don’t must really feel dangerous about that. You simply want to regulate for the subsequent 12 weeks. It is advisable be extra practical and you might additionally get to the tip of your 12 weeks and be like, that was form of straightforward. I used to be form of performed six weeks by means of and it’s like you might do extra. You might add extra to your 12 week, to your quarter purpose record as a result of yours had been too straightforward and that’s okay too however now it’s time to readjust. So long as you’re taking inventory of how the final quarter went, you’re gonna have the ability to higher make objectives for the subsequent 12 weeks. And you may as well form of see how did life change? How do you know my objectives change or something like that. I additionally had this second, so this occurred to me in January of this yr I received to the tip of the month and I used to be feeling actually down as a result of I had been actually sick. I used to be sick for like two strong weeks. I’ve a toddler, so I’m sick lot, simply form of a part of it. It’s winter, we additionally had some snow days, which was actually enjoyable, but it surely form of received me off of a few of my objectives of attending to the fitness center and strolling extra for my psychological well being. However what I did was I used to be feeling actually down after which I form of checked out my to-do record that I sustain on my bulletin board in my workplace and it has all my work stuff and I additionally put my private issues on there, simply because I’ve it multi function place and it’s greater than a post-it like Elsie was speaking about but it surely’s sufficiently small that I can have a look at it and one fast look and so I like that it retains me on observe and I spotlight it, in order that’s my coloring means of seeing what I received. .And so I used to be it and I noticed that like 90% of it was highlighted. Like I nonetheless received quite a bit performed in January, regardless that I felt actually crappy and I used to be actually sick and I had much more days off than I used to be form of planning on as a result of we had snow days. However I noticed like, Hey, truly I’m glad I’m taking this second to take inventory, as a result of truly this month went very well. I received quite a bit performed after I had time to work, I actually busted out and after I didn’t get to work as a result of I used to be sick or we had a snow day, I rested or I performed with my son cuz he was dwelling and that was cool too, that was vital, the resting. Taking part in together with your son’s extra enjoyable than vital, it’s not the phrase I might use, it’s far more enjoyable than vital. It’s additionally vital, but it surely’s not identical.
Elsie: It’s a part of life proper now, for positive.
Emma: The variety of occasions I’ve watched the automobiles films this month is just too many occasions, however love you Lightning McQueen. Anyway, so I feel typically having this check-in time, if nothing else, it may form of drive you to understand that you just did a greater job than perhaps you had been considering, or no less than that’s what I discover occurs for me quite a bit is I feel I’ve these grand concepts and I truly get quite a bit performed, but it surely doesn’t at all times really feel so nice within the second. So when you will have these occasions the place you let your self verify in, perhaps you do want to regulate. Perhaps issues went terribly and you’ll want to make some changes, however perhaps additionally issues are higher than you assume and also you’re simply form of exhausting on your self, which is what I do.
Elsie: My first month went terribly. Yeah, you do want to regulate.
Emma: That’s okay, that’s fantastic too. It’s not the tip of the world to regulate. Anything? Another ideas you wished to share in regards to the 12 week yr?
Elsie: Yeah. I feel if you don’t make your objectives, I might say I don’t make my objectives like more often than not, and I feel that’s regular, particularly when a variety of the objectives are one thing large that you just’ve by no means performed earlier than otherwise you tend of placing too many on every record. So I feel for the subsequent time, in case you are a purpose repeater like me, the place you’re like, I didn’t make that, however I’m gonna attempt once more. Then I feel making some kind of edit to attempt to deal with the ache level. So for myself, my ache level is often it’s exhausting to get began or it’s exhausting to maintain going as soon as it will get boring, that are each totally different but it surely’s gonna occur time and again and over for the remainder of my life since you solely get one mind. So I feel discovering little methods to encourage your self previous your ache factors, I feel could be actually good when. You’re in all probability gonna have a variety of the identical objectives, like time and again all through your years or related no less than. So it’s one thing you’ll be able to undoubtedly get higher at, like tricking your personal mind and placing your self in your very best place for fulfillment. I feel that no matter you must do for me, the little rewards are good, the little charts, however do no matter you must do to offer your self that very best likelihood.
Emma: I feel that ought to be a T-shirt, you solely get one mind.
Elsie: It’s true. There’s so many occasions I evaluate myself to Emma as a result of Emma is sort of a finisher in any respect prices. She finishes every little thing and I don’t end in all probability like a tenth of the issues that you just do, however I don’t have an opportunity to dwell life together with your mind. So, it’s prefer it doesn’t actually matter, it’s an entire waste of time principally to match myself to somebody who has totally different strategies. So the one strategies that I can enhance upon are those that work for me. So yeah, I feel simply discover the issues that encourage you and actually use these strategies.
Emma: Yeah, I do assume there’s not a variety of worth in evaluating your self typically, however evaluating your mind since we’re on that matter to different individuals as a result of it’s such as you’re not gonna be that individual and doubtless, there’s truly a variety of strengths to being your self. There’s tons of issues that I want I used to be like, you extra, however I’m not and I’m not gonna be, so I can simply admire them about you and I’ll simply worth the issues about me. Which I do assume one among my issues is I do like to complete issues and I like that about myself. There’s different occasions I want I used to be slightly extra of a perfectionist, however I’m not and there’s no likelihood of it. So I simply should know that about myself and simply drive myself to decelerate. Or redo one thing if it must be redone and be extra trustworthy about that. As a result of I’m simply not a perfectionist and I feel that that’s okay, however it may maintain again my work from being higher than I feel it could possibly be at occasions. So anyway. Yep, we’re who we’re. Settle for it and develop.
Elsie: For positive. I feel you actually should embrace what your pure strengths and weaknesses are, after which use this to get slightly bit extra performed. However I felt prefer it made an enormous distinction for me. I like the prospect to have extra contemporary begins and yeah, I actually don’t see why beginning an enormous purpose solely each January, it doesn’t even make sense as a result of January shouldn’t be even the most effective month. It’s undoubtedly not my prime for like something. And it’s like additionally for individuals like us with little children, it’s such as you’re recovering from the hangover of placing on a magical vacation in your children. Which is quite a bit if your private home quite a bit.
Emma: I feel too, like most individuals I feel, establish with this like the start a part of any venture and the purpose setting time is admittedly enjoyable. It’s thrilling cuz it’s the dreaming half, such as you’re dreaming of all these stuff you wanna do and so that you get to do this 4 occasions a yr as an alternative of only one time a yr in case you do the 12 week yr. And that’s, I feel, extra enjoyable. It’s thrice as enjoyable, it’s far more enjoyable. Okay, so I feel that’s about it on that. The subsequent factor I wished to speak about was the excessive 5 take a look at. So if individuals haven’t heard of this perhaps simply inform ’em like the way you heard of it, since you despatched it to me, you had been like, take this take a look at, I used to be like, okay. So how did you even hear about it? It’s form of like energy finder, but it surely’s not, I don’t know.
Elsie: So a listener requested that we do like energy finder take a look at and I discovered this take a look at simply by Googling free energy finder take a look at. What’s the precise web site?
Emma: It’s excessive 5 take a look at.com.
Elsie: And it was with a quantity 5, excessive quantity 5. take a look at.com. Okay, so we did this, these assessments, it’s free. I couldn’t get my husband to do it, however I received Emma to do it. So , that was half of a win. It offers you a high 5 strengths and Emma and I had like a number of of the identical strengths which I used to be not anticipating, however then it did make a variety of sense. After which those which can be totally different additionally make a variety of sense. So anyway, ought to we learn what our strengths had been? My high one is Catalyst, my second one is Optimist, my third is Filo Math, which implies somebody who likes to study. The subsequent one is Thinker, and the final one is timekeeper. This was actually attention-grabbing, I used to be not shocked that I had optimist up actually excessive. I do assume that’s one among my strengths and my entire key to success of my entire life is like believing you already know, just like the lady from TikTok who says, How exhausting can it’s syndrome, I form of have that and I’ve at all times felt that I may do something that I wish to do in life. And I feel it’s a means my mind was born. After which a love of studying I undoubtedly assume that’s one thing we share. That one’s in your record too, proper? Yeah. F
Emma: Yeah Filo math was my primary.
Elsie: Have been there every other ones that we had been sharing? Thinker? That is smart too after which timekeeper. This one was attention-grabbing as a result of it stated that I principally favored to race myself, which is true. My solely means of getting issues performed, it’s virtually like slightly child if you set the timer for them to scrub their room, that’s nonetheless how I’m to today about any purpose. If I’m not on an aggressive deadline, I’m in all probability not even engaged on it. In order that’s like my entire methodology.
Emma: I used to be filo math, timekeeper, focus professional, deliverer, and thinker. Focus.
Elsie: Focus Professional is like the proper option to describe you as a result of I don’t assume very many individuals would relate with how nicely you focus since you identical to don’t get in your cellphone. You simply don’t have a distractable mind the best way that most individuals do.
Emma: Effectively, I don’t know if that’s wholly true. I undoubtedly get on my cellphone typically. However Yeah, I do assume one among my strengths is I can concentrate on issues. I at all times chalk it as much as that we needed to sit by means of so many boring sermons rising up, and I simply received actually good at focusing throughout something.
Elsie: We had been educated in highschool, throughout our church years, we had been educated to be be aware takers in the course of the sermons that was like principally the best way that you just present that you just’re being well mannered and listening and I do assume that was a particularly good behavior of studying get probably the most out. Sermons are no less than in our church, had been extraordinarily boring. I feel we received probably the most out of it that we may, no less than you’ll be able to bear in mind, like one thing from what your favourite half was and issues like that.
Emma: Yeah, mine additionally was love of studying.
Elsie: Wait, learn them once more.
Emma: Principally do filo math, which once more, I don’t know pronounce that both. That’s what I’m gonna go together with filo Math, timekeeper, focus professional, deliverer and thinker and I feel deliverer was not in your record.
Elsie: Deliverer, I feel this is the reason we’re such an excellent workforce collectively as a result of I’ve just like the catalyst and the optimist which can be totally different and you’ve got deliverer and focus professional which can be totally different and I feel that that’s like quite a bit to supply one another.
Emma: Yeah. So I feel you’re like, how exhausting can it’s? And I’m like, nicely, I assume we’ll simply end
Elsie: I find it irresistible. Yeah, I hope that a few of you are taking it. I feel it was extraordinarily correct and attention-grabbing. I’m gonna push my husband once more to take it as a result of I simply wanna perceive that little mind. I want I may push, mine’s a screenshot, so I can’t push on what catalyst means. I want I may learn what it meant, perhaps I’ll look it up actual quick. It means you can’t wait to start out your venture, you begin it straight away, you’re keen on beginning. That sounds proper.
Emma: You like beginning and I like ending, so we’re an important workforce. I additionally thought it was humorous. So it form of has 4 totally different energy households and your issues could be in any of those 4 households and the households are considering, doing, feeling, and motivating and all of mine are within the considering and doing. So I’ve no strengths in feeling or motivating, so in order for you somebody who can encourage you, I’m not that individual. And in order for you somebody who has a variety of emotions, I assume I’m not that individual both. I don’t know. Clearly I do have a variety of emotions, however I don’t know I simply thought that was form of humorous. I do assume after I’m working or after I’m attempting to perform, which doesn’t should be work associated like profession, it could possibly be no matter. I do assume I’m very, let’s do issues like I’ve a listing. Even in being a mother, it’s not that I don’t inform Oscar how a lot I like him or how proud I’m of him, I inform him each single day how proud I’m of him. However I additionally assume very a lot when it comes to, okay, it’s Saturday, what are we going to do? We’re going to go get a donut. Don assume that’s what we’re going to do.
Elsie: I don’t assume that’s what it means although, I don’t assume it implies that you’re not an emotive individual.I’ll cease in the course of a venture simply to cry and also you don’t try this. You realize what I imply?
Emma: Yeah. I imply, I’d truthfully, however I feel it’s extra of, how do you. I don’t know clarify this. How do you want undergo life? As a result of to me, it’s not that I don’t emote or have emotions on issues, I simply don’t assume when it comes to my emotions so far as like, what am I going to perform this weekend? Or what’s my life about? I don’t actually assume when it comes to emotions or I consider it extra in what I’m gonna do and achieve. I don’t know, however I feel lots of people try this, so I’m not likely positive. I simply thought it was humorous that each one of mine had been very concentrated. I’d like to fulfill an individual who has one energy in every of the 4 households, they usually’re this like completely balanced individual, however in all probability that’s not likely even the way it works.
Elsie: Yeah, mine has 4 colours.
Emma: Oh, you’re a balanced individual then.
Elsie: However I don’t really feel balanced both. I don’t really feel extra balanced than you.
Emma: Mine is like all two colours, not one of the different two .
Elsie: Effectively, I’m grateful in your strengths and I feel it’s form of like Enneagram or something. It’s identical to good to know. So as to perceive different individuals higher. So I feel it’s very useful.
Emma: Sure, I like something that helps you perceive your self or the world higher. I don’t actually like issues that put us in packing containers. I wish to make jokes about being a sure means or no matter, however to me that’s simply me being slightly bit self-deprecating for enjoyable. I truly don’t actually view it that means, I feel it’s only a device for self enhance as a result of I don’t have strengths in these different two areas, I can’t be that means. I don’t truly imagine that. I wish to say a joke about it however that’s not truly my perception.
Elsie: Yeah. No, I don’t both. I simply know I don’t take pleasure in ending, however I nonetheless know that I can, and I feel that that’s simply the one distinction. It’s like, for positive I can do it, you already know?
Emma: Yeah. How exhausting can it’s? Prefer it’s exhausting, isn’t that what Elwood says? Yeah. I received into Harvard, prefer it’s exhausting.
Elsie: Yeah. I wanna watch Legally Blonde, let’s try this film.
Emma: Yeah, we must always try this for per week we watch. It’s an excellent one.
Elsie: Okay, now it’s time for everybody’s favourite, a joker a truth with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: A joke is, what’s a polar bear within the rain? A drizzly bear?
Elsie: Oh, I like that one. That’s an excellent joke. Okay, thanks Nova.
Nova: Bye everybody.
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